When the holidays turn into a guilt trip

How many times this school holidays have you noticed other families having (what looks like) amazing adventures... As you scroll through your Facebook newsfeed, have you wondered whether you're doing enough? Comparisonitis comes knocking. Whether it shows up as mum-guilt or feeling shitty about yourself or your situation or your bank balance. You don't have to be drawn into it! 

It's happened to me in fleeting moments, and I bet it's happened to others looking at what I've been doing too. The saying goes that 'comparison is the thief of joy'... and it's true. 

I don't know about you, but sometimes I need a little reminder that I'm doing a great job. This summer our family has been on a tighter-than-usual budget as we've just finished an eye-watering expensive house extension. We've not done ANY day trips to the zoo, safari or theme park let alone any holidays abroad. What we have done is took picnics to the park, built dens in the back garden, had movie duvet days, learned how to ride a bike without stabilisers, gone to the library for free books and had a couple of weekends camping in Wales. We've had what feels like endless ham sandwiches and jam sandwiches and we've eaten dinners on the camping table in our new but unfurnished dining room. We've had a great time, and we've had boring days too.

Today I'm reminding myself that that's OK. I'm not wishing away the time, but I'm also looking forward to getting back into our normal routine once the holidays are over. I'm giving myself permission for it. That's OK.  

If you identify with any of this, let this be your reminder too. You ARE doing a great job. You ARE enough. YOU are everything to them.

Mum guilt will always come up at certain times of the year. So instead of getting down or annoyed about it, look at the positives. Don't sweat it if you can't spend a fortune, it's no fun doing a day out you you're worrying how to pay for the whole time. Don't sweat it if you can't take loads of time off work and need to rely on childcare. Don't sweat it if you want time off for yourself away from the kids - you need to take care of yourself to better take care of others. 

For more reassurance of how awesome you are, there are also some fab free affirmations you can listen to here which were recorded for you by our latest contributor - the relaxation guru Katie Hill.

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Dawn Jackson

Dawn Jackson is Editor of Rehab for Mums Magazine and Holistic Therapist based in Thelwall, South Warrington. My mission is to bring together women to support other women to feel their best in body AND mind.