I read a piece the other day that said you either SPEND time or DIRECT time... But whichever way you describe it, can there ever be enough of it?
We all have the same 24 hours of time in any given day, so do you ever catch yourself thinking how some people always seem to appear to have more of it? Or get more done?
These thoughts used to cross my mind all the time, but then I turned the spotlight back on myself. I stopped getting so frustrated about what other people were appearing to accomplish with their time and started focusing on ME. Let's face it, some people have more help with their home, their kids, their jobs, some people have more family support, some people have more cash to pay people to do stuff for them.
Whatever it is - it's NONE OF MY BUSINESS. I tell the kids all the time "not to worry about what so-and-so is doing, just concentrate on yourself!" so it was time to take my own advice.
Since having a family, I've always felt like there's a lack of time, I often get distracted, mornings are a chaotic nightmare - rushing and incomplete, and the rest of my time felt like it was claimed constantly by others - without what I thought was ANY choice on my part. Like I was a passive pawn not an active participant in my own life. As a former control freak, this was the worst kind of existence for me.
But there was a way to regain control on my time, and anyone can too. Like anything else worth doing, it's a commitment, it takes discipline and boundaries.
I'm not at the stage yet where I feel accomplished at the end of each day, but I HAVE set clear boundaries for the mornings and the results are incredible - we all start the day calm and organised. For me what works is making it clear what time everyone needs to be out of bed, no TV before school for the kids, NO phone scrolling or social media for me before the school run, everyone to eat breakfast, the dog to be walked, all toys to be off the floor.
What are your morning boundaries or what would they be?
The other thing that's changed is that I've recognised the difference between thinking 'I don't have time' and 'that's not a priority'. It's OK if I didn't get that thing done today because I prioritised something else. IT WAS MY CHOICE.
So can there ever be enough time? YES. YES. YES. Once you start taking responsibility for your own, and realising that you can't do all things for all people all of the time.
DO YOU SPEND TIME or DIRECT TIME? 👇